Until help is asked for, until there is a readiness to listen and inquire and challenge old patterns, your attempt to help will be felt as manipulation, control and resistance – your issue, your need, your war, not theirs

Perhaps what is ‘best’ for them today is not to want – or need – your help! Perhaps they actually need to suffer or struggle or seek more. Perhaps they are aligning and healing in their own unique way. Perhaps what this moment requires is trust, and deep listening, and profound respect for where they are in their journey.

https://leaveitundefined.wordpress.com/2020/04/12/getting-out-of-the-way